Five things your eyes say about you
By Amuta Chijike Stanley
There is definitely something about the eye. In any level of communication, formal or informal, the way one makes eye contact with the next person says a lot about what he or she has in mind.
Many psychologists believe that a person’s eye movements pass 60% of the message in a face-to-face chat. This is because we do not really have control on some eye movements and as we shall see later on in this article; your emotions ‘involuntarily’ controls your eye movement.
The eye is the focal point on the body, and hence, any signal passed through it reveals a lot about your personality. Human beings are instinctively wired to read virtually every type of eye signal; you may not even know you are reading them.
A wrong eye signal will pass a wrong message and may ultimately disrupt or even shatter communication. We may also judge people by the way their eyes are placed in the socket or by how such persons look. I have heard people say thing like ‘he has a baby eyes’, ‘she has a bedroom eyes’, he has the look of a thief’,’ and ‘she has an icy glare’.
When we use these phrases, we are unintentionally using a person’s eye signal to pass verdict on the person’s behavior. Let us take a look at some common eye signals and their inherent meaning.
Raising The Eyebrow
This gesture may mean different things to different cultures but it is mostly used in a positive kind of sense. A person can use this signal to deliberately draws attention to his/her face by raising the eyebrow for a split second and then dropping it again. In many parts of Africa, this signal can be used to acknowledge the presence of a younger person, as a sign of agreement (instead of nodding the head) and to indicate continued interest in a conversion.
Some Orientals like the Japs consider eyebrow flash to be rude or impolite and may have definite sexual connotations.
No one ‘eyebrows’ a stranger on the street or people they don’t like, and people who don’t give an eyebrow greeting are considered aggressive.
People normally react to eyebrow flash in a positive way, maybe unconsciously. So try flashing someone your eyebrow if you want to create a good impression, but don’t make it obvious that you are doing it to impress.
Widening The Eye
Have you noticed how women arrange their eyebrows when ‘making up’? They draw it up their forehead!! Without being aware of it, they want to appear more submissive, they know it appeals to men. On the other hand, if a man trims his eyebrows, he does it from the top of the eyebrow down to make it look thinner and hence more authoritative. Imagine how a soldier will look at you if he is pissed off; he lowers his eyebrow. Lowering the eyebrow is one way humans show dominance or aggression towards others, whereas raising the eyebrow indicates submission.
According to research and experiments, a normal person blinks seven to ten times a minute and it shouldn’t last for more than one tenth of a second. When a person exceeds this time frame, it could be an unconscious attempt by such person’s nervous system to block or shut off sight because they feel uninterested or superior. In the same way, glancing sideways could indicate uncertainty and hostility. When a person shifts eyes from side to side, one might think they are trying to study the vicinity but the simple truth is that such a person is looking for an escape route. Since we naturally know that looking away indicates lack of interest, we tend to look more at a boring person (gazing). Some people go as far as ‘forming’ a smile to feign interest.
Increasing or Decreasing The Pupil
The size of one’s pupil is generally affected by a person’s mood or arousal. The pupil responds to exciting or stimulating sights by increasing in size. It has been observed that the size of the pupil of men who are heterosexual usually increase when looking at a lady; this could be even more pronounced if they are attracted to the lady. The increase in size of the pupil has also been found to be proportional to mental activity associated with problem solving.
In romantic relationships, eye signals are also very essential language of communication. If a woman feels attracted to a man, she is most likely going to increase the size of her pupil to get his attention; she does this most time unknowingly. If you and your partner have ever gazed into each other’s eyes, I can assure you that you were actually looking for pupil dilation signals. Most children’s toys are designed to have large pupil because of this reason.
Generally, women are better at decoding signals than men, and although scientists do not know how these eye signals are sent or processed, they know they are real. It is also true that humans are the only mammals that have ‘white’ of the eye, known as sclera, the white part of the eye enables us to see where other people are looking since direction is very much linked to emotional state. So, be careful the way you use your eyes, they speak a lot about you.
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